Vulnerability is True Strength.

Being vulnerable is one of the most attractive things you can do in a relationship.

What’s funny is that seems to go completely against the mainstream narrative of what defines attraction…

Where what we assume to be attractive is indifference, emotional neutrality (you know, pseudo-strength), and, almost, this energy of not caring.

We think that if we act uninterested and unbothered, then that’s what makes us most optimally attractive; we think it demonstrates strength.

But here’s the twist… here’s why vulnerability is true strength.

Vulnerability means I’m not afraid to offer myself to you. It means I’m not afraid to share how I feel. I’m not afraid to open up.

It means I’m willing to trust, and to be seen.

Why most of us aren’t willing to be vulnerable though is that we’ve been burned so many times by doing so…

We expressed our emotions and got shut down, invalidated, rejected, and judged.

And so, like a reflex, we say: “Well I just won’t open up anymore. F*ck being vulnerable.”

That’s a fair thought process. But also an elementary one.

We shouldn’t let someone’s inability to receive us determine our willingness to share who we are.

You need to start seeing someone’s judgment of your vulnerability as data that they’re not right for you.

Rather than seeing it as evidence that you shouldn’t share how you feel.

In a roundabout way, vulnerability is true confidence…

As I mentioned above: me being willing to be vulnerable means I’m not afraid of you seeing me. I’m not afraid of you witnessing my inner-universe.

And the people that have a stiff upper-lip and put on a facade of strength by not opening up and being vulnerable…

Well… that’s weakness. Truly.

I get it. It’s scary. The word vulnerability literally comes from a root word that means “wound”.

But if you aren’t willing to expose that wound in a healthy way, it’ll never be able to heal.

And also, you’ll never truly find out who’s on your side at the end of the day…