The Power of Decreased Importance

The more important you make something, the more likely you are to push it away from you…

When you assign an excess amount of value to something, it creates a pedestal effect.

Whether it’s a job opportunity, a relationship, a status, or any sort of particular outcome that we REALLY want…

We put it on a pedestal. Where it’s “wayyyy up there,” and you’re “wayyyy down here.”

By creating this imbalance in importance and value, it makes achieving that thing much less likely.

This is because we see it as inconsistent with who we are.

We think we’re someone who can only dream of a certain annual salary, or someone who can only dream of having an ideal partner…

So when the opportunity for that thing comes into our life, despite us wanting it, we push it away…

This is called “self-sabotage.”

Because it isn’t congruent with your self-image, having it pulls you out of equilibrium, and your mind and body go to work in trying to get you back down into congruence with who you see yourself to be.

If you get a really good job opportunity, but you see yourself as someone who works a 9-5 that doesn’t pay you well… the idea of taking that job opportunity may feel so uncomfortable to you that you decline it.

If you’re under the impression that you’ll “never find true love”, when true love comes your way, it can feel so alien and discontinuous with your inner-narrative that you… you guessed it… push it away.

What we want to do in order to achieve and acquire these things that we “so desperately want”, is to make having it NORMAL.

We want to normalize the energy. We want to take it off the pedestal that we’ve artificially placed it on.

You want it to feel NORMAL to win. NORMAL to make progress. NORMAL for good things to happen.

This doesn’t mean devalue it and take it for granted. It means beginning to see it as NORMAL for you. Not this “extravagant, wild, rare, unlikely” thing to happen to “little ol’ you.”

No. Make it normal to be prosperous. Make it normal to find love. Make it normal for magnificent opportunities to flow to you.

There’s a quote that says, “when you treat someone like a celebrity, it forces them to treat you like a fan.”

This is true with people, and it’s true with the circumstances of our lives and the opportunities that present themselves to us too.

Make it normal to win.