Sometimes, No Response is The Best Response

Sometimes, no response is the best response.

How many times have you tried to get them to understand you?

And no matter how sincerely you word it, and no matter how passionately you express yourself, and no matter how desperately you want them to understand…

They just don’t get it. It’s like a wall between you and them.

And you think, “well maybe if I word it right. Maybe if I give them another chance, they’ll get it. Maybe if I try one more time, they’ll understand.”

But they never do.

What you’re trying to do is to get them to see your side of things. To consider you. To hear you out.

But these kinds of people, often times, are incapable of understanding you.

Your words simply cannot do it.

And you’re just exhausting yourself. You’re wasting your breath. You’re draining your energy by trying to get someone to understand something that they just… can’t… hear.

This is when it’s time to stop.

Stop trying to fix it. Stop re-explaining the same situation. Stop going over it again and again, hoping for a different outcome.

In these instances, silence is the best response. You leave them to their own devices.

You pull back your energy.

Because in that silence, you’re no longer filling the void. And they’re left with themselves.

And that silence is like a mirror. Where all they have to work with is where they’re at.

That silence is loud, and often times says more than any words could.

In the silence, you preserve your energy. You keep your own self-respect intact.

And if there’s any chance of them ever understanding, it happens in that silence.

It’s not your job to get people to understand you. You’re not impossible to understand. You’re not overcomplicated. You’re not being too much.

They just don’t hear you. So let them not hear you at all.

Leave them with their own lack of understanding.

It’s in that environment that if there’s any degree of them that could understand you, they will.

And in the process, you save yourself so much time. And so much of your precious energy.

I’ve had to learn this the hard way.

Sometimes, people just can’t get it. So I’ve stopped trying to force them to.

I accept the reality of the situation, and choose to preserve my own worth. And know my value.

Let them come to terms with things on their own.