Being Single is Better Than Losing Yourself.

A lot of people think that being single is by default worse than being in a relationship.

It evens sounds heavy: “being single…”

“Are you in a relationship?”

“No, I’m… single.”

We’ve been conditioned to perceive it as worse. We think that if you’re in a relationship, you must be winning.

But sometimes, the real loss is being in a relationship that is not good for you.

Maybe even A LOT of the time.

How many of you have experienced in the past (or are currently experiencing) that feeling of completely losing yourself in your relationship?

Where your hobbies, friends, interests, goals and ambitions take the backseat now that you’re “finally in a relationship.”

And you make the #1 priority in your life keeping the relationship from falling apart.

It’s like we almost go into damage control. We let go of everything we once were and did in an attempt to desperately keep something alive.

Meanwhile, your partner is just being themselves, being catered to by you… 24/7.

You start living your life through their eyes: what they want to do, what they want to talk about, how they want to be treated, what they like and don’t like, etc.

And the individuality we once had when we were single goes completely out the door.

And although we feel completely hollow inside and taken advantage of, we say to ourselves: “well, at least I’m in a relationship.”

Because we have our worth and value hinged upon this idea that being in a relationship is better than being single.

But that is just simply not true.

If you want to stop being used and taken advantage of, and if you want to stop losing yourself in every relationship you get into, hear this:

You need to be willing to say goodbye to your relationships if they come at the cost of your independence.

You need to be willing to let go of relationships that drain you.

You need to be willing to be single because you respect yourself then stay in a relationship that destroys you because “at least I’m in a relationship.”

When you set that standard, when you build a culture around your own self-prioritization and empowerment, that’s when everything changes.

That’s when the poles shift from desperation to confidence.

And that is precisely the prerequisite that allows you to actually attract and build a healthy, loving, reciprocal relationship.

Where it’s 2 whole beings coming together to rejoice in union.

Rather than one being praised while the other one begs for scraps.